Day: September 16, 2018

Beauty
Self Care

What is Self Care?

Rest – Reward – Recharge – Replenish Self care is so important yet we are taught in society that it is selfish to indulge in ourselves. I disagree! People don’t realize that self care is not selfish, it is self preservation. After all, if you don’t care about yourself or put yourself first then who […]

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Therapy

The Importance of Positive Self Talk

We believe what we tell ourselves so it is important to have positive self talk. We often learn our own internal dialogue and self talk starting when we are children through what our parents tell us, our teachers, other adults, and of course peers. It is important to speak kindly to yourself and practice positive […]

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Dating

Questions to Ask Yourself When Dating Someone

Ask yourself these questions to re-evaluate the relationship and to determine if there are any red flags How do they treat you? Do they blame you? What do they say the reason is that their last relationship ended? Do they take ownership and responsibility to why the past relationship ended? or do they paint their […]

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Dating

17 Signs of a Healthy Relationship

Here are signs that you are in a healthy relationship: saying no without feeling guilty asking for what you want and need able to maintain friendships while dating saying yes because you want to and not out of obligation or guilt acting to your own beliefs and values feeling supported as  you pursue your own […]

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Narcissistic Personality Disorder

11 Signs of Love Bombing

Love bombing is a term used for when the narcissist target you and starts grooming you or otherwise called bombarding you with love and affection. They target you because they like something about you, need something from you—you may have positive energy, you are successful, you have money or resources, good looking, or you are […]

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Narcissistic Personality Disorder

What is a “Flying Monkey”?

The term flying monkey refers to a person who does the narcissist’s bidding to inflict additional torment (spreading gossip, threatening them, painting the narcissist as a victim and the other person the perpetrator),  to the person targeted. They do the dirty work against the person targeted or they purposefully ignore the abuse. These flying monkeys […]

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Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Circular Conversations

This past weekend, I was watching my newest guilty pleasure,  reality TV show, Very Cavallari. I know, I know guys. Sometimes you just have to endulge in some fun and I have always been a fan of Kristen Cavallari.  I love her witty banter, style, intelligence, sense of humor, resilient, and sassy personality along with […]

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Narcissistic Personality Disorder

What is the “Gray Rock” technique?

Ready to gray rock? Gray rock is a strategy to use when in contact with a narcissist to get them to leave you alone when no contact is not an option. Just because they are in your life (maybe a boss, family  member, co-worker, or someone you are trying to co-parent with etc) doesn’t mean […]

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Therapy

Shouldn’t I be able to handle this myself?

That’s the message we are given in society today–that if you can’t do it all then there must be something wrong with you. Let’s be honest, therapy has gotten a bad rap over the years. In a society that tells us we need to “have it all” while appearing to “have it all together”, asking […]

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Therapy

Do I Change Therapists?

Are you thinking, “I don’t have the energy to start over? “ or “How do I open up or talk about myself to a stranger all over again?” It’s not easy.  Even positive changes and a new chapter can be difficult. Have you just made an appointment with a new therapist &  terrified of opening […]

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